In challenging times like now with strong collective grief, fear, and hopelessness in the world, those of us who identify as “healers” at our soul level feel called to show up more and offer help for others.
Identifying as healers at our soul level isn’t really about our professions. We don’t have to be a healthcare professional or energy healer - we could be a teacher, chef, parent, mid-level manager, or anything else. It simply means that we often find ourselves providing support and healing to those who are hurting in some way in our lives. In general, people who are suffering end up feeling better once they spend time with us.
One thing to remember as we are being called to show up more as healers is how we may be showing up as “wounded healers.”
Wounded Healers are powerful. They can tap into the unhealed, painful part of their own wounds to access the compassion and power to heal others. Oftentimes, some profound healings for others are facilitated by those of us who are operating as wounded healers.
The trouble of working as wounded healers is that it costs us. Constantly utilizing the unhealed parts of ourselves to access the energy to heal others isn’t quite healthy for our long term healing or thriving. Our own wounds don’t get enough care and healing to become whole, and it often compromises our own energetic boundaries and self care needs.
The better alternative is being able to heal as a “healed healer,” from the place of more wholeness and groundedness of our healed self. Taking the time to care for our own healing in this current time is absolutely necessary for us to show up for the long haul of this collective healing journey.
If any of this resonates with you, here are some practical ways you could shift from the position of wounded healer to healed healer.
Practice 2:1 Ratio
When you show up for someone once, you need to show up for yourself twice. One part of healing/care for others to two parts of healing and care for your own self, whether that is some time away from social media, being in solitude, getting extra sleep, or eating that burger while watching Netflix.
Be sure to be grounding yourself to the earth often and especially before you show up for others. Earth is the most powerful, physical source of healing energy. When we ground and draw the energy from the earth, we can heal and replenish our own energy. Earth is immediately accessible to us - spend some time outside, open the window, or simply visualize yourself connecting with Mother Earth.
Be Present and Mindful
When we get sucked into our own patterns of operating as wounded healers, compromising our boundaries, or neglecting to care for ourselves, these are often happening without our realizing. These are often our unconscious, conditioned responses we engage in, without even realizing. Being more present and self-aware of our own feelings, triggers, behaviors, and patterns can help us intervene sooner when we are operating as wounded healers. Regular meditation, journaling, or other mindfulness practices can help us strengthen our self awareness and healing abilities.
I hope these tips are helpful for you healers vibrate high and healthy during this time. Our work as healer is lifetime soul-calling, and our world needs us to take care of ourselves for the long haul. You are powerful, special and appreciated. Let’s love and care for ourselves as we do for others.
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Meet Seo Kelleher, an intuitive coach for life and business, committed to empowering women. "I am passionate about helping women find the courage to transform their lives by embracing their vulnerability and taking the responsibility."