Recently, I had a very short, but very powerful encounter with a loved one of a good friend, and that experience sparked me to share a little bit more about how I discovered I was a psychic medium.
A lot of times people think of mediums as people that can bring spirits from the other side on demand, but I don’t use my gift or market myself in that way. When I do act as a psychic medium and connect with someone’s loved ones, it is always to deliver a loving and healing message from the other side to serve my client at their highest good.
I discovered that I was a medium when I made contact with my late mom-in-love, whom we lost very suddenly a few years ago. My relationship with her had been complicated in the past because, although she was always a loving and caring force in my life, my relationship with my own mother was not. It was difficult for me to trust my mom-in-love based on her love and patience toward me and I had created massive boundaries and walls around our relationship.
All of the spiritual awakening and personal growth and healing work I had been doing was starting to pay off, and I started seeing how I was stopping love or refusing love for the fear of disappointment and conditional love. At the beginning of 2016, I set the intention to “take down these walls” and love my mom-in-love with open heart and more importantly let HER know how much I loved her. Then only a few weeks later on February 3rd, she had passed away suddenly.
I can’t describe the emotional hole and regret I felt around our relationship. I had built all these stupid walls around our relationship for over ten years, and when I finally decided to lose the walls and love her fully, I was too late. It was too late. We had lost her.
They do say something devastating and heartbreaking like this experience can trigger or speed up deeper spiritual awakening, and that must have been how it happened for me. A few months later I was taking an online class that introduced us to psychic mediumship. During our group exercises on how to open our channel for connection meditatively, my mom-in-love made the connection with me right away. It was as if she had been waiting for me to finally open myself up.
The messages she gave me was so validating and loving...and so specific that I had to believe it was her. I had been wanting a piece of Mom’s jewelry as a momento, but with my sister-in-love in possession of all her jewelry, who was grieving and having a difficult time, I knew it would be a bit tricky to ask. During the “conversation” with mom, she acknowledged my desire and gave me a ring (a vision of a ring) as a gift, something that was silver, carved with butterflies, then said “here is a ring you wanted, now let Amy keep all my jewelry.”
It took me some time for me to “come clean” and come out of the “mediumship closet”. It was a powerful, healing, and loving experience for me to connect with my mom-in-love, and for a while, I just wanted that moment to stay between me and her. The trouble was, I started getting more messages. The second came from a young man named Billy.
I had never met Billy while he was alive. I had only met his mom once briefly and had heard weeks later that she had lost her son. But when his spirit connected with me, it was as clear and direct as he was alive and standing right next to me, talking nonstop wanting me to deliver all his messages to his family.
When Billy came, it was more like he pushed his way in, pulled up a chair in the middle of my thoughts and started talking about what he came to talk about. Billy had this way of just showing up and claiming the space, and a charming way of commanding attention. There have been times when I tried to “explain” why he shouldn’t just show up whenever - (I’m standing in line at Starbucks), (it’s 3 am, dude, WTF?) Or (you know other spirits wait until I put up “open” sign.) It didn’t seem to bother him at all.
Billy is an important spirit to me because he really helped me to push past some of the fears I had around my mediumship gift. Having such a strong connection and presence from Billy and receiving so much validation and gratitude from his loved ones when I had shared his messages really helped me gain my confidence as a psychic medium.
Many people often ask me to connect them with a spirit or loved one as a medium. To me, this doesn’t feel like the best way to move forward and heal from the loss. Actively knocking on that door to connect, or relying too heavily on these messages to help us grieve doesn’t feel right.
I believe it’s important not to seek that connection and validation as our main means of healing - it’s something that can help us, but we need to go through the process of grief and healing on our own in this physical world too. I describe getting messages from the loved ones who have crossed over as an unsolicited love notes or hello notes - we don’t anticipate, seek, or demand these notes when we receive them. When they arrive we accept them with joy and love.
It is an exciting time in the world right now - more and more people are discovering their spiritual gifts and deepening their connection to the divine/spirit/source/god. This energetic shift has allowed more and more people to seek out their own intuition, openness, and curiosity with their potential gifts. My hope is that with the right tools and resources, and mentorship from other people who have experienced similar spiritual awakening, more people can connect with their soul purpose and gifts and serve people and the world at deeper, more magical level. And maybe some of you too will find out a gift of mediumship.
I am available for spiritual mentorship and coaching for those of you who are going through your own spiritual growth. Message me if you’d like to learn more on how I can help you with your journey.
In preparation for my Manifestation Superpower Program, I wanted to discuss some of the most common blocks that people experience in manifesting and then share some tips on how to work through them.
Manifesting is a word that is used a lot— in the real world it means “getting the results that we want or desire”. Another way to say it is, to make something real. When we have a desire, or goal, or wish, it isn’t really real until we create it or feel it. You may have heard me talk about the “pizza” analogy. This isn’t anything new, but it’s helpful to review.
The universe is the restaurant. The restaurant has a menu and when you read the menu you place an order. Imagine that you are going to order a pizza, so you need to know what crust, what sauce, and what toppings you want on it. A big part of manifesting is showing up to a restaurant, ordering what you want, and paying for it. After you’ve ordered, you don’t stress about the details of the pizza, you just trust that the pizza is coming, and when you get it, you are thankful and happy and you enjoy the pizza. So, that’s how you manifest. You order your pizza, trust it’s coming, and then receive and enjoy it with gratitude. Manifesting requires us to be really clear with what we want, pay for it, and stay in the right vibration, trusting that the universe is going to bring it to you. That’s the principle of manifesting.
(Watch my video where I explain this pizza analogy by clicking here)
Blocks, or what stops us from manifesting, can be looked through the lens of the pizza analogy. There are three main blocks in the ordering stage, three main blocks in the waiting stage, and three main blocks in the receiving stage. You may resonate with one or some of them.
Blocks during the Ordering Stage
1. You want something that’s not in alignment.
Sometimes you hear people come up with goals and intentions that are a bit arbitrary, like “I want to be a millionaire by age 40”. The point is, when we say we want something, we don’t always take the time to be clear on why we are asking for this thing. Is it in alignment with your values? Is it in alignment with what makes me joyful? What I’m really good at? Where did this desire come from? The important thing is that this desire is aligned with your soul’s purpose. Even if you’re not totally clear on your soul purpose, you may know where you lean, so make sure that your desires are in alignment with that.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
Get clear on what you want and doing some self-discovery. You could work with a mentor, talk to your best friend, talk to a coach. You should take the time to write out your “why”.
2. You may say you want something, but your subconscious mind doesn’t want it, so your conscious and subconscious mind are in conflict.
This means that although you believe that your conscious mind wants something, your subconscious mind, for whatever reason, does not want it. This could be because of an underlying fear or subconscious limiting belief. This causes the intention to be cancelled out. You may think, for example, that you want a soulmate, but your subconscious mind wants freedom and so it knows that a soulmate wouldn’t align with that desire.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
One way to help your conscious and subconscious mind blend together is that you can delve into the fears or limiting beliefs you have that may be influenced by your past, and let them go. Shift them. Some things you can do to shift those mindset patterns are journaling or EFT (emotional freedom techniques, like tapping).
3. You are playing small and not dreaming big enough.
If you’re ordering your pizza, you are ordering a tiny pizza with not many toppings. For whatever reason, you may feel like you don’t need fancy things or you may feel undeserving of nice things. You may have lack mindset or you may feel that it is not realistic to manifest what you want. This is “as good as it gets”.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
When you’re resistant to dreaming big and ordering the luxurious pizza you want, take the time to establish a gratitude practice where you can be really grateful for what you have. If you have lack mindset and think that taking what you want prevents someone else from having it, a gratitude practice can help. If the problem is worthiness, or feeling like you don’t deserve to have your chosen pizza, you can do the “100 ways I’m awesome” exercise and complete it in one day. The last technique is dedicating more time for self-care, whether that is for your mind or body.
Blocks during the Waiting Stage
1. You are trying too hard.
This occurs when you obsess over how the restaurant is making the pizza or are willing to do anything to get the pizza delivered to you properly. I consider this the “crazy girlfriend” or “stalker” block, and I have difficulty with it myself. I’m constantly studying manifestation, learning about it, and overthinking it. If you’re a farmer that plants seeds, but you obsess over every aspect of it, the seeds will not grow. It’s only when you let nature do its thing that the seeds sprout and start to grow.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
The way to overcome this block is to stop, play, and rest. You have to intentionally stop obsessing over the process, and do something that is going to take your mind off of it, and allow you to fully rest.
2. You are being too rigid.
When you’re manifesting something, but you’re too rigid about HOW it is going to happen and attached to that idea, the universe can’t bring you that thing. It’s a real bummer when this happens, because the universe is trying to bring you an amazing thing, and your inflexibility gets in the way. If you’re wanting to manifest $10,000 to pay off your credit card bill, but are so specific about the money coming from your business, the universe has no wiggle room to make it happen. What if the money was supposed to come from your tax refund?
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
The tip for this block is practicing and incorporating more flexibility and trying to relinquish control. You want to think of what control break tendency do you bring into your life and business and how can you let that go. For me, for example, it can be delegating something to someone else and letting it go by not stressing about it.
3. You aren’t taking action.
So, you ordered the pizza, but didn’t pay for it. You are wishing for the pizza but not taking the action to produce the product. You may think to yourself, that would be so nice to have, but you’re waiting for someone else to show up and pay for that pizza. Sometimes it’s the victim mentality, sometimes it’s laziness or procrastination, or a sense of entitlement, or being too busy. The bottom line is that taking action is the only way you’ll manifest.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
The tip for this block is not spiritual at all, but you’ve got to get your ass in gear! Get yourself a coach, trainer, or accountability buddy.
Blocks during the Receiving Stage
1. You’re not open to receiving.
You are constantly trying to make up or give back when something good happens to you. You are constantly trying to even the scale. In a work situation, this could be not really enjoying and embracing the positive gifts of the universe before moving onto something else. You are not really allowing the joy or celebration of the pizza that you worked hard for! Constantly trying to go to what’s next means you are very heavily into masculine energy that tells us to move forward and hustle. Receiving is feminine energy.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
Practice spending time in feminine energy. That doesn’t mean acting more feminine or being more feminine, it means trying to find pleasure and feel and tune into our intuition and our bodies. This could be doing more yoga, dancing, meditation, being in nature, or doing something creative.
2. You don’t create enough space.
This means you want to manifest things, but you haven’t created enough space in your life. That could mean that you doing too many things, have too many people in your life, or don’t have enough time left. Whatever “space” means to you. There is not enough time or space for things to occur. You may be holding onto things or relationships that don’t serve you, but the universe doesn’t have space to bring you want you want.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
You can create physical space. Sometimes that could be eliminating things from your to-do list, or if that’s not possible, creating space in your physical environment and that could help you shift that energy. The exercise called “21 Item Toss” is an exercise that happens over three days, where you pick out 21 items to get rid of everyday. The items don’t have to be big items, but the process of energetically clearing is helpful. If the relationships are negative or toxic, creating distance can be very helpful. A practice called “energetic cord cutting” is a visualization technique where you are clearing a cord between yourself and that person.
3. You are ignoring the signs and guidance from the universe.
You are essentially ignoring the signs that align with your beliefs that you get you closer to your goals. If you’re not paying attention, you may think you’re not getting what you want. Sometimes we are so busy thinking about how we want to manifest instead of focusing on the opportunities that come up.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
There are a few things that can help you get attuned to the signs, like meditation, pulling tarot cards, journaling, dream journaling, or other techniques to delve into your intuition. If you set the intention and get into a clear state, you can do automatic writing, it could uncover wisdom and messages. These are all things that take practice, but setting the intention and practicing can really help.
Manifestation Superpower Program is perfect for someone who is a little bit woo-woo, interested in a tight knit group, getting online support, daily exercises and practices to implement in your life to help you overcome these blocks. If you’re interested visit: manifest.seokelleher.com
Introduction from Seo
I get asked so many questions from people on how to become more spiritual, grounded, better at manifesting, trust intuition… and my answer is always “start meditating.” And usually the response I get is, “Oh I know, I try, but…”
Usually my response to that is, start at 2-3 minutes a day, because ANYONE can meditate for 2-3 minutes. It’s bullshit when anyone says they don’t have time or it’s too hard when it’s just for 2-3 minutes right? If you are still not doing it, it’s probably because you don’t feel ready or don’t want to, whether you realize it or not (our subconscious minds can be a stubborn bitch!)
Then I thought, hmmm maybe that’s too harsh for some people – I should share someone else's experience and tips from her experience. So I asked my friend Sabrina to share her view on meditation – she came up with so many great practical tips! Enjoy!
Guest post by Sabrina Jugo
Sabrina is a millennial feminist that lives in Richmond, Virginia. She is passionate about social justice issues and plans to pursue a Master's in Social Work in the near future. When she isn't writing, she enjoys reading, lighting candles, drinking tea, and having passionate conversations with friends about how to make the world a better place.
Why People Should Meditate.
For many years now, I have been resistant to the idea of a dedicated meditation practice. Because I live and breathe psychology, which emphasizes mindfulness, I spent a lot of time truly thinking that I was doing “enough” to better myself. Be mindful while I’m watching the dishes? Sure. Be mindful in conversations with friends and loved ones? No problem. The truth is, while the benefits on mindfulness and meditation may overlap, they aren’t quite the same.
Mindfulness may help you feel connected to the world around you, but meditation connects you to truths within yourself. It’s no secret that some of the greatest thinkers in the world have uncovered great meaning deep truths about themselves, and the universe, while meditating. That said, if they can unlock all of these magical powers by dedicating a few minutes a day to it, why can’t we?
Here are the five biggest roadblocks in my meditation journey, and how they can be easily debunked.
1. “I don’t have the time”
When there is something that I know would benefit me greatly, but that greatly overwhelms me, I like to use time as an excuse not to do it. As a college grad who was trapped in a pretty mentally unhealthy college environment for four years, I perfected the art of overbooking myself and neglecting most things that were good for me. Now, as a 24-year old, who juggles a few different jobs, a social life, a desire to stay connected and informed about the goings-on in the world, and future life preparations, it seems like there often aren’t enough hours in the day. Regardless of your age, I know you feel the same way! While this thought process still creeps in from time-to-time, the ultimate truth is, you make time for things that are important to you. If I can make time to play a few hours of volleyball one night a week or re-watch episodes of Gilmore Girls that I’ve seen 15 times, I can find a few minutes during the day to meditate.
Headspace is a great app to get people started, that is not too woo-woo or spiritual in nature.
Insight app is my favorite app - it has so much variety of guided meditations, and it also has a timer with background noise option once you get more self-sufficient in meditation on your own (when you don’t need someone else’s voice to guide your meditation)
2. “I don’t know where to start”
Everywhere we look, we see meditation advertised as something that only our most highly esteemed friends have mastered. The media, in particular, tells us we need to dedicate a room in our house to it, and make it last a few hours. The message is, if you aren’t fully committed to the idea, you shouldn’t participate at all. Furthermore, being a beginner at anything lends itself to some discomfort. This is where my perfectionism creeps in. That little voice inside my head tells me not to bother trying, since the most likely event is that I will fail.
The great news (especially for my fellow perfectionists) is that like anything, you can start small. There are thousands of resources out there for beginners or people looking to get back into meditation if they’ve taken a break or stopped completely.
3. “I have too many thoughts going through my mind”
Because I’ve worked with many individuals who suffer from anxiety, and I’ve experienced my fair share of anxiety at times, I can understand how debilitating it can seem to sit with your own thoughts. For some people, it can seem like the most daunting task of their day. The good news is that meditation can be an amazing tool for managing anxiety in the long run! Over time, the practice can help to calm your body, and allow you to work through your thoughts. Although it may be a challenge at the beginning, you can look at it like a long-term investment toward your overall health and well-being.
4. “It takes a long time to get any benefits, and if I skip a few days (weeks), it’s just like starting over”
The truth is, this one is still a challenge for me. I self-identity as a “project starter” and have difficulty keeping up with my intentions or habits in general. This is where positive self-talk comes in. A huge part of my professional life has been spent telling others to be kind to themselves, and that we should be working toward progress, not perfection. It’s easy to tell others to cut themselves some slack, but when it comes to you, it’s an entirely different story. I think back to when I played tennis in high school. I was a pretty decent player, but when I went to college, I stopped playing. Almost seven years later, I’m starting to play again, and it feels like I’m starting from scratch. It is incredibly frustrating, and I often think to myself, “why can’t I do this? I used to have great strokes and do super well”. Of course it’s not going to naturally come back to me! Instead of placing value on where I was then and where I am now, I could simply acknowledge that I did the thing in general. If I mastered the skill then, I can master it now.
5. “Meditation makes me more anxious than relaxed”
It’s possible that this is true, at first. I believe that the majority of us do not make the effort to sit quietly with ourselves, really ever. Sitting with one’s thoughts, without any distractions, is not sexy, and so no one tells us to do it. I can tell you from experience that after a while, you learn to control anxious thoughts, and even ward them away when they come up. [PSA, I am by no means stating that an anxiety disorder or severe anxiety can be cured through meditation. What I am saying, is that it can be a helpful tool and coping mechanism for those people as well].
Please comment & share what your mediation journey has been like. Both Seo & I would love to hear from you. Join Alpha Female Sisterhood.
Those of you who know me, know I’m an intuitive coach who helps high performing business women (my “Alpha Female Sisters”, if you will) realize their purpose and go after it in a big way—in part, by balancing their masculine and feminine energy. (To learn more about masculine and female energy, and how to find a balance between the two, check out my blog post: Tapping into your Masculine & Feminine Energies!)
What you might not know is how I got here in the first place.
Back in September, I had the opportunity to talk with the ladies of The Next Tuesday Podcast—Care and Suz, two badass boss ladies themselves, who feature weekly interviews with other lady bosses making their mark on business and the world. We talked about what it means to be an Alpha Female Sister, how I transitioned from the corporate world to the world of intuitive coaching, my spiritual journey, and lots more.
This is my story.
I’m 41-years-old now, but I spent most of my adult life—up until my mid-to-late thirties—living and working in the corporate world. Before that, I was your typical, over-achieving, straight-A student; a rule follower who did everything by the book. After completing my MBA, I entered the world of corporate marketing, where I spent 15 years. The corporate world is all about working hard, striving to out-perform your peers, competing for that next promotion, playing the game to be powerful—but, if you’re a woman, not too powerful. Anyone working in the corporate realm still knows it’s a man’s world, and women just have to know how to play the game, which usually means we do a lot more work—picking up the slack, while still being denied leadership positions. I did all of that. I was making a lot of money, my company loved me, and my coworkers envied me. And I was extremely unhappy.
Being the person I am: direct, opinionated, motivated, I was already feeling like I couldn’t be the leader I wanted to be. And the other women who held the positions I was striving for weren’t empowered, they weren’t in leadership roles, they weren’t happy, they didn’t have good work/life balances, and I thought: I don’t want to be them. There are still so many rules women have to follow, to achieve just slightly less than equal status, and that didn’t feel right to me anymore.
I finally knew that it was time to leave the corporate world when my team—which, up until that point, had been amazing—got a new boss. What had once been a supportive team where women encouraged and supported each other became a team led by a woman in power who didn’t believing in supporting and empowering other women and I knew I couldn’t stay there.
At the time I was already teaching fitness classes in the evenings and on weekends as a way to relive stress. So I left the corporate world and started my fitness company—what became CO2 Fitness. I incorporated CO2 Fitness the same week I left my marketing position, I had my website up the following week, and I was ready to go. People might think I had this passion and inspiration and courage, but really, I had just had it with corporate life. I just had to walk away. And I started making a name for myself though teaching hardcore, badass, high-intensity workouts.
But even CO2 Fitness was really all about that masculine energy and manifesting success. CO2 Fitness was growing steadily, but a lot of my motivations were based on fear: fear of failure, fear of not having enough money. I realized I didn’t always want to be motivated by fear. I wanted to be motivated by something else, even though I didn’t yet know what that was. And then, suddenly, that’s when my spiritual awakening happened.
I started working with a coach—someone who I had initially hired to help me become more successful in my business, so I could make more money. But then this box opened up. My coach began guiding me through all my limiting beliefs, my past traumas, my forgiveness issues. Life coaching really helped me become a better person and develop self-awareness. One thing my life coach really encouraged me to try was meditation—which I thought was bullshit. But he convinced me to give it a shot by telling me that all successful people have a meditation practice. So I begrudgingly started meditating and suddenly things started happening. I heard a voice. I was finding clarity. And when I had the courage to act on that clarity, things really took off.
One day, something told me to “be ready.” I got this message: if somebody gives you $5,000 to do what you need to do, what would you do with it? Are you ready to say yes? What would you create? Following that message, I prepared. And then one day, I was describing this message to a group of clients, when one of them leaned over and asked: “Is that what you need?” Right then, she wrote me a check for $5,000. And I was ready for that, because I had prepared. I took the money and created different programs, I grew my business even more. As things kept happening, I kept growing personally.
Then my mother-in-law passed away very suddenly, which created a shift in my life—I began wondering, what is life, really? Her loss was so unexpected and there were so many regrets for me; things that I didn’t get to do things that I didn’t get to say. Right in the middle of this stage of growth and transformation, her passing made me really look at my life again. When you find yourself having a life-altering experience or trauma during a period of growth, things tend to accelerate even more.
I realized I never wanted to be a fitness pro. But there was still a part of my fitness business that I really enjoyed, so I needed to figure out what that was. I discovered it was empowering women, connecting with women. In fact, lot of what I really enjoyed—that space of empowerment—was happening between the actual fitness classes, or after class, among women: getting lunch, going out for coffee dates. I thought: how can I make a living by going on coffee dates? And I just decided to go after it.
I added life coaching to the fitness business, and the life coaching just grew from there. Eventually, I could afford to transition out of fitness completely and focus entirely on life coaching. I realized most of my clients were business women—for many business women life is business and business is life, and with my background in marketing I started offering business coaching alongside life coaching.
During this process, my psychic gifts opened up: I started seeing visions; I started receiving messages, my intuition opened up. I realized something was happening, so I hired another coach and started doing my own research. I discovered I have intuitive and psychic gits, and began learning how to use them. But even as it was happening I was apprehensive—I was comfortable seeing visions, I was comfortable being an empath, but I didn’t want to explore mediumship. I kind of drew the line at talking to dead people.
Then, after my mother-in-law passed away, I was exposed to mediumship. She came through to me so powerfully, and that’s how I found out I’m a medium. The messages she gave me in that moment—for myself, for my husband, and for his twin sister were so powerful, so healing, and so aligned. But even then I still thought: maybe this’ll just be our little secret.
My biggest fear throughout this journey—something I still struggle with—is that with all my years of working so hard to establish my reputation as a high performing woman, there’s a risk to showing my entire authentic self: that if people discover I’m psychic or that I can communicate with the dead, I’ll lose my credibility. My biggest fear is that all my past hard work could go away, and I could lose everything. But I know this is my own experience, and it’s okay if people can’t connect with it. That’s where the feminine energy comes in: staying grounded, surrendering, knowing that this is who I am, accepting it, and nurturing it. Now I really have that great balance of masculine energy and feminine energy.
I’m not trying to make millions right now. I’m just trying to have this journey. I’m trying to be a catalyst for people to change their lives, so that they can go off and change the world. I believe my purpose is finding other women with passion and purpose who are going to make an impact on this world, and I want to help them do it in their own way.
*Adapted from The Next Tuesday Podcast: "Don't Be A B*tch. Be An ALPHA" with Seo Kelleher / Intuitive Coach; Founder of Alpha Female Sisterhood
We have heard so many times, "Time is Money."
But what if "Time is Love?"
So whatever or whoever we give most of our time to, it means we are giving most of our love to?
I spent many years of my life working 50-60 hours working for a big company that considered me as nothing but a resource that made the company profit. Then even after I started my fitness company, I was so busy growing my business, I was always at the studio or on computer working - and was too busy to be present for those who loved me.
I have recently come to realize that at least for me personally, time had to be love.
I chose to spend time and my energy in things that I wanted to give love to.
Myself, my family, my friends, my community, and my business - in that order, because to me, that's how love should flow.
If you had to live your life in a way Time = Love, how would you choose to live it?
Meet Seo Kelleher, an intuitive coach for life and business, committed to empowering women. "I am passionate about helping women find the courage to transform their lives by embracing their vulnerability and taking the responsibility."