Guest post by Sabrina Jugo
Sabrina is a millennial feminist that lives in St. Louis, MO. She is passionate about social justice issues and is currently pursuing her Master in Social Work. When she isn't writing, she enjoys reading, lighting candles, drinking tea, and having passionate conversations with friends about how to make the world a better place.
I recently uprooted myself (and my partner) from our cozy lives in Richmond to pursue graduate schooling across the country. This decision wasn’t one I made lightly for many reasons, but the biggest one was that I was starting to consider Richmond a kind of home. As someone who moved at the difficult age of thirteen, left home to attend college in another state, and moved three times in the past three years, I’ve weathered all sort of transitions. The trouble is, transitioning from one thing to another, no matter what it is, is a challenge. Whether it’s changing jobs or moving cross country to pursue something totally new, changes can feel disruptive at best and debilitating at worst. The past ten weeks or so have reminded me of how hard new challenges can be but have also cemented a few guidelines that are helping me through my transition. I write in hopes that they are something you remember when you experience transitions of your own!
1. Set realistic expectations for your transition.
Not so long ago, my therapist told me that for the average person, transitioning from one city to another takes about six months or so. I’m sure tons of helping professionals and researchers will come up with their own timelines, but I’ve held on to six months. It’s been important for me to set this expectation in my mind because this funny little thing happens when we’ve settled into a routine—our minds completely wipe all of the stress and difficulty it took us to get there. Upon leaving Richmond, where I spent the last two years, I was filled with confusion and doubt about whether or not I was making the right decision. It was a place that felt like home. What I neglected to remember was the near year it took for me to feel like it was any kind of home. I struggled to create a network, keep up steam at a job, and create the kind of life I wanted. It wasn’t until I finally got connected to some wonderful Richmonders (shout out to my boss Seo!) that I really started to feel grounded and secure. The point is, our minds plays these little tricks on us to protect us from the fear of messing up a good thing, all to protect us. A large part of the last few weeks has been affirming and reaffirming that building something new always takes time and that creating the life you want doesn’t happen overnight.
2. Paint a new picture of what your community will look like.
Before moving out across the country to start my program, I was stoked to meet some amazing folks who were going to be “my people”. These people were going to care about the same issues and enjoy delving into social justice-y concepts over dinner, just like me (here are these pesky expectations again!). When I arrived and didn’t immediately find that, I began to blame myself for not thinking my whole decision through and even questioning if I really belonged (more on imposter syndrome in a minute). It was advice from a close friend that helped ground me in the reality of my situation: even though my community was no longer a short drive away, they were still there. They were still my community, they were just a bit more scattered. This advice was like a revelation to me! I had kept in contact with the people who mattered most during my other life transitions and I would do the same now. Maybe I wouldn’t be grabbing dinner and drinks with friends or seeing my weekly movie at the Criterion theater, but I would still be connected to the people that mattered. In many ways, I would be putting some friendships to the test, and not in a resentful, angry way, but mainly in an accepting and loving kind of way. In a lot of ways, it has felt like creating a new community can be so daunting; in another way, I am simply reframing the role that my community has in my life, for now. And that’s OKAY.
3. Impostor syndrome happens to (almost) everyone.
Impostor syndrome is the overwhelming feeling that most people have when after starting something new, you start to feel as though you do not belong, an “impostor”. This can take a variety of forms; in a new job, at a new school, or in a new community where you don’t feel like you connect with others. I think rather than diving into impostor syndrome and what it looks like here, there is one thing I do know: after building slow, intentional relationships, and making connections with others, you start to gather that most people feel like impostors in some way. It just comes in different forms. I may feel like an impostor because I haven’t made strong connections with people that I thought I would, while another person may feel like an impostor because they’ve landed themselves at a high-profile institution and are thinking, how did I even get here? Regardless of the reason, know that your peers or colleagues or loved ones are either feeling what you’re feeling or have once felt it too.
4. The universe has my back.
The most important of these mini-lessons is that the universe has my back. Even in the most chaotic moments of this transition, meditating, journaling, and connecting with my community has made me feel most at peace. A lot of this has been creating an intentional manifestation practice and staying in high-vibration energy, using the tools that Seo and other experts have guided me through. Thinking back to what life looked like at the start of the year, and so many of the wonderful things that I manifested, I know the practice works. It’s not just a matter of staying committed to the process and making an intentional practice out of it. If I can manifest a graduate school acceptance, a kick ass new job with supportive women, and a fulfilling relationship, I can also manifest a smooth transition for myself.
Moving cross country after establishing a community I loved in a place I loved was a difficult choice for me. Transitions may be challenging, but they are also an opportunity for immense growth and growing closer to the self. I am here to carry out my soul’s purpose and know that this chaotic feeling of change is temporary. The four little mantras above have helped me to work through these “big feelings”. I hope they may help you too.
“One of these days you just might look up and realize: oh my word, I am exactly where I’m meant to be.”
Recently, I had a very short, but very powerful encounter with a loved one of a good friend, and that experience sparked me to share a little bit more about how I discovered I was a psychic medium.
A lot of times people think of mediums as people that can bring spirits from the other side on demand, but I don’t use my gift or market myself in that way. When I do act as a psychic medium and connect with someone’s loved ones, it is always to deliver a loving and healing message from the other side to serve my client at their highest good.
I discovered that I was a medium when I made contact with my late mom-in-love, whom we lost very suddenly a few years ago. My relationship with her had been complicated in the past because, although she was always a loving and caring force in my life, my relationship with my own mother was not. It was difficult for me to trust my mom-in-love based on her love and patience toward me and I had created massive boundaries and walls around our relationship.
All of the spiritual awakening and personal growth and healing work I had been doing was starting to pay off, and I started seeing how I was stopping love or refusing love for the fear of disappointment and conditional love. At the beginning of 2016, I set the intention to “take down these walls” and love my mom-in-love with open heart and more importantly let HER know how much I loved her. Then only a few weeks later on February 3rd, she had passed away suddenly.
I can’t describe the emotional hole and regret I felt around our relationship. I had built all these stupid walls around our relationship for over ten years, and when I finally decided to lose the walls and love her fully, I was too late. It was too late. We had lost her.
They do say something devastating and heartbreaking like this experience can trigger or speed up deeper spiritual awakening, and that must have been how it happened for me. A few months later I was taking an online class that introduced us to psychic mediumship. During our group exercises on how to open our channel for connection meditatively, my mom-in-love made the connection with me right away. It was as if she had been waiting for me to finally open myself up.
The messages she gave me was so validating and loving...and so specific that I had to believe it was her. I had been wanting a piece of Mom’s jewelry as a momento, but with my sister-in-love in possession of all her jewelry, who was grieving and having a difficult time, I knew it would be a bit tricky to ask. During the “conversation” with mom, she acknowledged my desire and gave me a ring (a vision of a ring) as a gift, something that was silver, carved with butterflies, then said “here is a ring you wanted, now let Amy keep all my jewelry.”
It took me some time for me to “come clean” and come out of the “mediumship closet”. It was a powerful, healing, and loving experience for me to connect with my mom-in-love, and for a while, I just wanted that moment to stay between me and her. The trouble was, I started getting more messages. The second came from a young man named Billy.
I had never met Billy while he was alive. I had only met his mom once briefly and had heard weeks later that she had lost her son. But when his spirit connected with me, it was as clear and direct as he was alive and standing right next to me, talking nonstop wanting me to deliver all his messages to his family.
When Billy came, it was more like he pushed his way in, pulled up a chair in the middle of my thoughts and started talking about what he came to talk about. Billy had this way of just showing up and claiming the space, and a charming way of commanding attention. There have been times when I tried to “explain” why he shouldn’t just show up whenever - (I’m standing in line at Starbucks), (it’s 3 am, dude, WTF?) Or (you know other spirits wait until I put up “open” sign.) It didn’t seem to bother him at all.
Billy is an important spirit to me because he really helped me to push past some of the fears I had around my mediumship gift. Having such a strong connection and presence from Billy and receiving so much validation and gratitude from his loved ones when I had shared his messages really helped me gain my confidence as a psychic medium.
Many people often ask me to connect them with a spirit or loved one as a medium. To me, this doesn’t feel like the best way to move forward and heal from the loss. Actively knocking on that door to connect, or relying too heavily on these messages to help us grieve doesn’t feel right.
I believe it’s important not to seek that connection and validation as our main means of healing - it’s something that can help us, but we need to go through the process of grief and healing on our own in this physical world too. I describe getting messages from the loved ones who have crossed over as an unsolicited love notes or hello notes - we don’t anticipate, seek, or demand these notes when we receive them. When they arrive we accept them with joy and love.
It is an exciting time in the world right now - more and more people are discovering their spiritual gifts and deepening their connection to the divine/spirit/source/god. This energetic shift has allowed more and more people to seek out their own intuition, openness, and curiosity with their potential gifts. My hope is that with the right tools and resources, and mentorship from other people who have experienced similar spiritual awakening, more people can connect with their soul purpose and gifts and serve people and the world at deeper, more magical level. And maybe some of you too will find out a gift of mediumship.
I am available for spiritual mentorship and coaching for those of you who are going through your own spiritual growth. Message me if you’d like to learn more on how I can help you with your journey.
In preparation for my Manifestation Superpower Program, I wanted to discuss some of the most common blocks that people experience in manifesting and then share some tips on how to work through them.
Manifesting is a word that is used a lot— in the real world it means “getting the results that we want or desire”. Another way to say it is, to make something real. When we have a desire, or goal, or wish, it isn’t really real until we create it or feel it. You may have heard me talk about the “pizza” analogy. This isn’t anything new, but it’s helpful to review.
The universe is the restaurant. The restaurant has a menu and when you read the menu you place an order. Imagine that you are going to order a pizza, so you need to know what crust, what sauce, and what toppings you want on it. A big part of manifesting is showing up to a restaurant, ordering what you want, and paying for it. After you’ve ordered, you don’t stress about the details of the pizza, you just trust that the pizza is coming, and when you get it, you are thankful and happy and you enjoy the pizza. So, that’s how you manifest. You order your pizza, trust it’s coming, and then receive and enjoy it with gratitude. Manifesting requires us to be really clear with what we want, pay for it, and stay in the right vibration, trusting that the universe is going to bring it to you. That’s the principle of manifesting.
(Watch my video where I explain this pizza analogy by clicking here)
Blocks, or what stops us from manifesting, can be looked through the lens of the pizza analogy. There are three main blocks in the ordering stage, three main blocks in the waiting stage, and three main blocks in the receiving stage. You may resonate with one or some of them.
Blocks during the Ordering Stage
1. You want something that’s not in alignment.
Sometimes you hear people come up with goals and intentions that are a bit arbitrary, like “I want to be a millionaire by age 40”. The point is, when we say we want something, we don’t always take the time to be clear on why we are asking for this thing. Is it in alignment with your values? Is it in alignment with what makes me joyful? What I’m really good at? Where did this desire come from? The important thing is that this desire is aligned with your soul’s purpose. Even if you’re not totally clear on your soul purpose, you may know where you lean, so make sure that your desires are in alignment with that.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
Get clear on what you want and doing some self-discovery. You could work with a mentor, talk to your best friend, talk to a coach. You should take the time to write out your “why”.
2. You may say you want something, but your subconscious mind doesn’t want it, so your conscious and subconscious mind are in conflict.
This means that although you believe that your conscious mind wants something, your subconscious mind, for whatever reason, does not want it. This could be because of an underlying fear or subconscious limiting belief. This causes the intention to be cancelled out. You may think, for example, that you want a soulmate, but your subconscious mind wants freedom and so it knows that a soulmate wouldn’t align with that desire.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
One way to help your conscious and subconscious mind blend together is that you can delve into the fears or limiting beliefs you have that may be influenced by your past, and let them go. Shift them. Some things you can do to shift those mindset patterns are journaling or EFT (emotional freedom techniques, like tapping).
3. You are playing small and not dreaming big enough.
If you’re ordering your pizza, you are ordering a tiny pizza with not many toppings. For whatever reason, you may feel like you don’t need fancy things or you may feel undeserving of nice things. You may have lack mindset or you may feel that it is not realistic to manifest what you want. This is “as good as it gets”.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
When you’re resistant to dreaming big and ordering the luxurious pizza you want, take the time to establish a gratitude practice where you can be really grateful for what you have. If you have lack mindset and think that taking what you want prevents someone else from having it, a gratitude practice can help. If the problem is worthiness, or feeling like you don’t deserve to have your chosen pizza, you can do the “100 ways I’m awesome” exercise and complete it in one day. The last technique is dedicating more time for self-care, whether that is for your mind or body.
Blocks during the Waiting Stage
1. You are trying too hard.
This occurs when you obsess over how the restaurant is making the pizza or are willing to do anything to get the pizza delivered to you properly. I consider this the “crazy girlfriend” or “stalker” block, and I have difficulty with it myself. I’m constantly studying manifestation, learning about it, and overthinking it. If you’re a farmer that plants seeds, but you obsess over every aspect of it, the seeds will not grow. It’s only when you let nature do its thing that the seeds sprout and start to grow.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
The way to overcome this block is to stop, play, and rest. You have to intentionally stop obsessing over the process, and do something that is going to take your mind off of it, and allow you to fully rest.
2. You are being too rigid.
When you’re manifesting something, but you’re too rigid about HOW it is going to happen and attached to that idea, the universe can’t bring you that thing. It’s a real bummer when this happens, because the universe is trying to bring you an amazing thing, and your inflexibility gets in the way. If you’re wanting to manifest $10,000 to pay off your credit card bill, but are so specific about the money coming from your business, the universe has no wiggle room to make it happen. What if the money was supposed to come from your tax refund?
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
The tip for this block is practicing and incorporating more flexibility and trying to relinquish control. You want to think of what control break tendency do you bring into your life and business and how can you let that go. For me, for example, it can be delegating something to someone else and letting it go by not stressing about it.
3. You aren’t taking action.
So, you ordered the pizza, but didn’t pay for it. You are wishing for the pizza but not taking the action to produce the product. You may think to yourself, that would be so nice to have, but you’re waiting for someone else to show up and pay for that pizza. Sometimes it’s the victim mentality, sometimes it’s laziness or procrastination, or a sense of entitlement, or being too busy. The bottom line is that taking action is the only way you’ll manifest.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
The tip for this block is not spiritual at all, but you’ve got to get your ass in gear! Get yourself a coach, trainer, or accountability buddy.
Blocks during the Receiving Stage
1. You’re not open to receiving.
You are constantly trying to make up or give back when something good happens to you. You are constantly trying to even the scale. In a work situation, this could be not really enjoying and embracing the positive gifts of the universe before moving onto something else. You are not really allowing the joy or celebration of the pizza that you worked hard for! Constantly trying to go to what’s next means you are very heavily into masculine energy that tells us to move forward and hustle. Receiving is feminine energy.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
Practice spending time in feminine energy. That doesn’t mean acting more feminine or being more feminine, it means trying to find pleasure and feel and tune into our intuition and our bodies. This could be doing more yoga, dancing, meditation, being in nature, or doing something creative.
2. You don’t create enough space.
This means you want to manifest things, but you haven’t created enough space in your life. That could mean that you doing too many things, have too many people in your life, or don’t have enough time left. Whatever “space” means to you. There is not enough time or space for things to occur. You may be holding onto things or relationships that don’t serve you, but the universe doesn’t have space to bring you want you want.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
You can create physical space. Sometimes that could be eliminating things from your to-do list, or if that’s not possible, creating space in your physical environment and that could help you shift that energy. The exercise called “21 Item Toss” is an exercise that happens over three days, where you pick out 21 items to get rid of everyday. The items don’t have to be big items, but the process of energetically clearing is helpful. If the relationships are negative or toxic, creating distance can be very helpful. A practice called “energetic cord cutting” is a visualization technique where you are clearing a cord between yourself and that person.
3. You are ignoring the signs and guidance from the universe.
You are essentially ignoring the signs that align with your beliefs that you get you closer to your goals. If you’re not paying attention, you may think you’re not getting what you want. Sometimes we are so busy thinking about how we want to manifest instead of focusing on the opportunities that come up.
HOW TO WORK THROUGH IT
There are a few things that can help you get attuned to the signs, like meditation, pulling tarot cards, journaling, dream journaling, or other techniques to delve into your intuition. If you set the intention and get into a clear state, you can do automatic writing, it could uncover wisdom and messages. These are all things that take practice, but setting the intention and practicing can really help.
Manifestation Superpower Program is perfect for someone who is a little bit woo-woo, interested in a tight knit group, getting online support, daily exercises and practices to implement in your life to help you overcome these blocks. If you’re interested visit: manifest.seokelleher.com
I am here to talk about some business myths that some really talented entrepreneurs keep believing that are keeping us broke! These myths keep us in the mindset that growth and making the gains that we want are not possible. You may identify with one or more of these myths, and if so, I can help!
1. The Mother Teresa Myth.
This is the belief that we do what we do because we have the passion and desire to help people, heal people, and empower people, so in order to do that, we need to be like Mother Teresa. We need to make the ultimate sacrifice, go through our own pain, and give everything we have to make that impact. This is the first of many myths that reinforce the belief that we have to suffer to help others and make a a true impact.
2. The Accessibility Equals Discounted Price Myth.
I’ve worked with some powerful boss babes who have a vision, but are always going and going and traveling around. I always advise these women that if they could charge a higher price, they wouldn’t have to be running around so much. This happens when you have a great passion to make a great impact, and in order to reach the greatest number of people with that product, that you need to charge an at market price. A price that everyone can afford is a “Walmart" price, and when you start that, it is difficult to break out of it. This is tricky because it really blocks you from creating enough income to support your business. When you’re able to create a package that gives you a range of prices, you’ll be able to push past this myth. If you have several different price points, like a VIP price point, a mid-level price point, and, finally, an at market price point, you’ll be able to increase accessibility without compromising the income you deserve.
3. The Blood, Sweat, and Tears Myth.
We hear this expression a lot, and even I used it without really understanding what it meant. If you think about it, actual blood, sweat, and tears? We shouldn’t want pain in order for our business to be successful. The myth says that we will not succeed if we don’t struggle and have difficulties along the way. The belief that in order to be successful, things need to be difficult, is a myth. What if it were easy? Fun? Joyful? Painless? Natural? Flowing? Magical? I don’t want to bleed over my business! I don’t know about you, but it shouldn’t cause that kind of pain.
4. The Rabbit and Tortoise Myth.
We’ve all heard the expression— slow and steady wins the race. This myth is believing that anything that is fast growing or fast progress is not sustainable. Anything fast is not responsible or smart, so we should pull ourselves back to our slower and steadier growth. It actually contributes to you playing small, because instead of working toward growth and movement, we keep pumping the breaks and keep trying to slow it down. What if you could reach that fast growth? When you feel aligned with your purpose, your energy, your mission, and strategy, and the action steps are in front of you, so you don’t need to pump the breaks. When things are aligned, you have to take action and things are going to take off! But often we feel like it isn’t the “smart” decision, and we miss out on the opportunity for growth.
5. The Expert and Mastery Myth.
If I could just get one more certification, take one more course, could learn from another expert, it’s the feeling that you have to reach a certain point of mastery, and then you’ll be able to charge what you’re worth. It’s the feeling that you need to constantly strive for external approval and qualification in order to expand your business. This myth is a result of a lack of self confidence and alignment, so we keep seeking some external sign to expand our business.
I also got some other suggestions from different boss babes about things they’ve noticed. The main myth they referenced was what they called The Process Myth. This is the belief that there’s one process or methodology that you have to follow, and that’s the only way that you can create the success that another person is experiencing. Related to the process myth is the belief that things have to be linear. This means that you cannot go forward when the universe presents Step D, because you have to complete Step A, B, and C first. Things don’t happen in a linear form! Our minds like to think in linear terms because time is linear, so it helps us feel comforted, but that’s false. One of my favorite oracle cards is the Spiral of Manifestation. Things happen in spirals, and not just linear spirals, but three dimensional spirals! You can go front one point to the next point with incredible success if you step away from this linear process mindset.
These are all of the myths that I’ve noticed that are keeping us broke, stuck, and keeping us from taking leaps to the next level! These are some of the myths that are holding us back from creating the businesses we desire which helps us to expand and play big in the world!
Although some of you may know me as the Intuitive Life and Business Coach that I am now, I was a fitness instructor for many years, since 2008. While I was at a corporate job doing brand management and marketing, I also taught fitness classes. After starting my own fitness company, CO2Fit, I transitioned my business to Intuitive Life and Business Coaching, and now, I help high performing business women who are really committed to big goals and making a difference in the world playing big in their business and getting the results that they deserve.
I’ve noticed that there are some things that I had learned as a group fitness instructor which have helped me tremendously as an entrepreneur. Here are those 5 Business Success Tips I learned from teaching fitness classes.
1. Show Up
The most important thing I learned from being a fitness instructor is to show up. When I was a fitness instructor, it was never an option to bail out of a class that I was scheduled for. Your name was on the schedule, so if you are teaching, you had better show up! Unless the gym closes, or there’s a massive leak in the gym, it was never a consideration to bail out or not show up.
I see this a lot in entrepreneur world. Often, we treat showing up like it’s something we could do or do without. We give ourselves too much leeway and freedom not to do the work. Just like at fitness classes, people are going to come to that room expecting to have a workout, we must act like there are people who rely on us showing up and delivering our work, even when we don’t feel like it.
Even when you don’t feel like working out, or when you feel a little bit under the weather, or when you don’t feel prepared, or don’t think you’ll do an excellent job. It’s never an option not to show up to the class as a fitness instructor. The same kind of commitment and work ethics can help us stay consistently visible in our business, too.
What I learned as a fitness instructor is that it takes a long time to build a class. There were times that I inherited a class that was “dying,” where I’d be teaching to a crowd of 2-3 people, week after week. You still have to show up and do the work, deliver your product, deliver your service, even if it felt like the process is taking too long.
Often, entrepreneurs quit too soon. Let’s say you create a workshop or webinar, and you start to closely monitor how many people are signing up for that course. I feel like entrepreneurs are too quick to cancel when they don’t meet the initial numbers they expect.
I think that’s a big mistake. If five people went to the trouble of signing up, even when you had been expecting twenty people, I believe you should still deliver. As a fitness instructor, whether five people showed up or twenty, you would never cancel. For those five people, you give them the best you got. They held up their end of the bargain, so you have to deliver your product.
Second, it’s a practice for you. How are you going to get better at teaching the class or offering the service if you keep canceling and never deliver? The only ways to get better at what we do is doing it.
If we give up too soon, and we have no idea that all the effort that we’ve been making has been creating this buzz, creating this energy, creating excitement, and if you don’t follow through, you will never know how big or successful it could have gotten.
Patience when you feel frustrated with the progress, or the slowness of it, or when any of those self-critical thoughts come up, you cannot give up. It takes time, consistency, and persistence.
3. Break the Rules
Sometimes you have to break the rules or change the game plan. Be flexible, roll with it. Some days, I’d be really pumped to go into a fitness class with a hard butt-kicking workout plan. Then I will see that people who showed up for the class includes exercise newbies, seniors, people healing from injuries. There’s no way that I could execute the planned class – I will have to modify my plan.
Sometimes you have to change your game plan, even though you’re so excited and gung-ho about your original game plan, you need to adjust it. I trained in a program that was very rigid, where there was always a routine, and we couldn’t deviate from it. But then, I would see people lifting things in the wrong way, bad forms, inches away hurting themselves. I had to break the rules, stop my routine and correct their movements so they didn’t hurt themselves.
Many women fear breaking rules or changing plan, because I don’t know, we have all kinds of fear of upsetting someone else (who?) or being criticized (who again?). But we have to get grounded in why we’re doing what we're doing. To serve, to heal, to empower, to teach. You want to serve your client at their highest good, not compromise it listening to our own fears.
My friend Beth says, “Adapt, adapt, adapt on the fly!” This is the goal. It’ll help you evolve.
4. Authenticity Goes a Long Way
I’ve always been really big on authenticity. If I messed up while I was teaching, people knew. If I was doing the exercise with you, and if it sucked, and if it hurt, you could see it on my face. I’d often say, “It sucks, I’m here with you.”
Being authentic, sharing your own mess up, being vulnerable, these are the things that connect you to your clients and your audience. I would mentor newbie instructors, and find out they are really good at faking it. They didn’t want to show their weakness. Their fear of failure was so great, that they acted like a completely different people because they were scared to death of making a mistake.
People can see that. When you’re not authentic and when you’re not grounded in who you are, the experience that people get from that fitness class will never be as powerful as one that was completely authentic and real. I would always say to the newbie instructors, “Be yourself! Chill the fuck out! This is just an aerobics class, you don’t have to be perfect, you just need to be you!”
It’s the same for entrepreneurs, we need to stay authentic, especially for those people who want to build an online business or people who are trying to do a lot of public presentations or public speaking, or using social media for their business.
If you don’t keep it real, especially on social media, people see that. Energy is energy and your audience will see it. You’re not going to be able to build success if you feel like you have to play certain parts, or cover your authenticity, or package it nicely, or anything like that. Authenticity goes the long way. Vulnerability, humor, everything about who you are, that goes the long way. That’s the magic.
Relationships that you build are so important. Some fitness instructors would show up to teach their class and they wouldn’t talk to people before the class, wouldn’t engage with people after the class, they would just show up, do their thing, and book out of the gym. They’re missing a huge part of creating their “fitness magic.”
Connecting with people after those classes made me one of the most popular fitness instructors in all the gyms that I worked at. Without that connection, you’re just another fit body showing up and moving your body to the music.
In business, you also have to create those relationships and that community. When you start to engage with people authentically, that connection builds and you become a tribe. Those loyal, supportive people help you grow and become successful.
When I decided to go from being a part-time fitness instructor to starting CO2Fit full time, so many people supported me. They wore my t-shirts, shared my posts on social media, told everyone about me. Even recently at a business networking meeting, I met a woman who recognized my name because some of her closest friends had trained with me! Those connections are helping me connect and grow my business years later.
So what do you think about these tips? Can you see how we can learn so much about being an entrepreneur just from being an aerobics instructor? We never know whatever past experience we have help us in the future. What kind of past professional experience have you had that helps you become successful in what you do now? I would love to hear what you think!
Also watch FB live video of me talking about this very topic here: Coach Seo
Meet Seo Kelleher, an intuitive coach for life and business, committed to empowering women. "I am passionate about helping women find the courage to transform their lives by embracing their vulnerability and taking the responsibility."